I used to think everybody had a purpose, and everyone had one thing they needed most. My best friend needed to be loved, I needed to be listened to. I realize now maybe that's why we were so close, still are. Her purpose was to listen, and mine was to love.
Everybody needs to be loved. Everybody wants and and everybody wants to be wanted, it's true. It's nice to know you're needed. So we all should express our need for each other, appreciate it. Say thanks.
It would be selfish of us to ignore this need to want and be wanted.
What does it mean to be selfish?
Like "normal", selfishness incorporates many a idea into one word.
Selfishness is a word many people are afraid of. Nobody wants to be selfish, some people say others "are" selfish. It is an insult, like "normal". But I think everybody is a little bit selfish, and I think it's a good thing.
Selfishness is when you put yourself first, above all else and others. A selfish person is "concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others." Or, simply, making yourself number one.
According to most this is not ideal, in fact, it's a little bit disgusting. But who in their right mind would want to raise a world too shy, too ashamed to ever feel like it is number one?
Shouldn't we be proud of ourselves? Shouldn't we take time for ourselves? Shouldn't we relax and indulge and forget, even just for a little while?
The opposite of selfish would be selfless: "having no concern for self," and that just sounds terrible. If you think that you can live your life "having no concern for self," I think you're lying to yourself.
What is self? Self is important, it's you. Your Self is your happiness, your wellbeing, your health. Self holds your dreams and secrets and ideas. You don't need to be afraid of selfishness. You just need to learn how to tame it.
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/selfish
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/selfless
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And she still exists! I was getting worried.
ReplyDeleteSo you used to think everyone had a purpose. Do you still think that?